Relationships, for most of us, are never simple. Perhaps when we were young things seemed straightforward. It was hard to understand why someone would stay with someone they don’t like being around when we were young, but as we grow older we feel the layers of dynamics in our relationships. So much of who we are - our pasts, our thoughts, our dreams, our fears, our own families of origin - holds the experience of our adult relationships the way a bag holds a pile of rice. Our